“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”- Steve Maraboli
Twas the 3 months before Christmas and all through the house, not a creature was stirring-namely my spouse. The stockings weren’t hung by the chimney with care & the tree was still boxed, in the attic somewhere. My cherubs were nestled all snug in their beds, while holiday panic danced in my head…..(Doesn’t anyone realize that this whole house has to get decorated ASAP and in accordance with this year’s holiday theme???)
I relay this Christmas rhyme (in May), not to demonstrate that I have lost my marbles, but to confess to you (and to myself) that I struggle with CONTROL ISSUES!!! I wish I could say that my control issues are “seasonal” or even “Christmas tree related”…they aren’t.
Turns out, my desire for control is a 365 day dilemma.
There….my secret is out. I am acknowledging my struggle…and acknowledgement is the first step toward change.
My second step led me to seek a solution. After all, I am in the business of solutions (sort of) & I can’t expect my clients to commit to meaningful life change, if I am not willing to walk that path myself.
So I started walking and walking toward change.. Walking is hard. Walking is really hard , and tiring, & it feels like I am walking in circles. Frankly, this path is crap & needs paving! .
Detours were ambiguously marked by anger, frustration, or anxiety. Dead ends signs screamed TURN BACK NOW!!! THIS IS beyond YOUR control.
So I set myself on cruise control & instead of wandering in circles, I found THE CIRCLE. I have explained it below in hopes it will pave the way for you too.
As you chart your course fellow control freaks…please be kind yourself. The journey is long & you are are not lost; You are “Under Construction”-Remember to conserve fuel by focusing only on what you have control over. You’ll need more than your fair share of fuel for the twists & turns ahead.