Friendship: Comes in Different Shapes and Sizes.

Friendship. What is friendship, really? According to Merriam Webster, friendship is defined as:

One attached to another by affection or esteem; A favored companion.
There are many definitions actually but I liked this one. I’ve had friendship on the brain because, well, I think about friendship, often. In a longing way. A gratuitous way. A confused way. So, I’m finding these definitions helpful in shedding a little light on what friendship is, and what it isn’t.

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Mother’s Day Hangover

I woke up with a hangover Monday.

A Mother’s day hangover.

Before the 5:30 alarm went off my mind was racing with all that had to get done since I “took the day off” for Mother’s Day.  As I had mentioned I did not want breakfast in bed, I knew our day consisted of football games and basketball games, leaving my main request for a Mambo taxi by the end of the day.

How did the day actually go down?

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Sunday Self Care – FUN!

It’s Sunday Funday!

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What are you doing FUN today?

When was the last time you had FUN?

Can you think of something you want to do that is FUN?

I ask this question a lot to my clients and more times than not I get a blank stare or stark silence as the answer. In the multitude of to-dos we all have heard that self care inevitably needs to be a priority. Fun needs to be at the top!

Let me remind you what FUN means:

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Why stop and have fun? Because it gives you natural joy, it makes you smile, it usually changes the pace, all things we need.

When was the last time you had FUN with your husband?

Don’t tell me you don’t have enough time. Don’t tell me yall don’t know how to have fun together anymore. Don’t tell me you don’t want to spend the money. I don’t accept excuses.

Think back to when you were dating, what did yall do for fun? Remember how it used to be a priority, back when you liked your husband more…….see the connection….fun + together = liking your spouse again.

When was the last time you had fun with your kids?

No I don’t mean the hours you are in the car together going from baseball practice, to the birthday party, to going to see Mimi. I mean when did you have fun with them. As in putting down the cell phone and chasing bubbles together. As in playing a game together. As in having a dance party in the living room or as Dillon often requests, family night at Dave & Busters.

When was the last time you had fun?

If you cannot come up with a good answer it is time to make FUN a priority again.
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small things often

John GottmanSmall things done often in all our relationships make the biggest difference over time.

John Gottman was referring to couples when talking about doing small things often for your partner to make a difference in your relationship. Small things often can also be applied to your relationship with yourself, your children, your bestfriend.

What is something small you have done lately?