This simple premise is the cornerstone of my work as a therapist.
I have found that the root of a client’s anxiety and/or depression is often directly related to his/her core beliefs about himself, others and the world around him. These beliefs, in combination with distorted thinking patterns, cause a great deal of emotional distress.
So it stands to reason that if we harness the power of our thoughts, we can directly influence our feelings & behaviors. This idea is the backbone of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a short term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem solving. Quite simply: changing your thoughts can change your life!
Sound too good to be true? It’s not. With a lot of introspection and a little homework, you will be well on your way to mastering your mind.
In my upcoming blog posts, I will shed light on the core principles of CBT. Today, however, we will begin to explore the foundation upon which CBT is built.
The first step in understanding CBT is to understand that feelings, actions, and thoughts are always connected.
Here is an example of this triangle in action:
Situation: I have an upcoming blog post deadline & a mountain of laundry looming in the other room. If my thought is…I’ll NEVER get this blog post done in time, I immediately feel ANXIOUS. This feeling of dread might cause me to avoid doing either task & instead, binge watch 1,000 episodes of Odd Mom Out.
My negative (all or nothing-always /never) thinking in this situation led to anxiety and avoidance…Not to mention some serious mind sucking t.v. time…which does little to help me conquer the Everest of Underwear in the other room.
With a small mommy mind makeover, I will rewind this scenario & hopefully end up with a more productive outcome.
Situation: I have an upcoming blog post deadline & a mountain of laundry looming in the other room. If my thought is…This blog post deadline is looming & so is the laundry. I’ve been in this situation before & I managed to get it all done. If I stay relaxed, I will be more productive. As a result, I feel less ANXIOUS and more hopeful. This new feeling of calm helps me to work on each task a little at a time and eventually get both of the tasks done. …Which in turn allows time for a glass of wine & 2 episodes of Odd Mom Out.
This mind makeover is obviously a win/win for booze, BRAVO & Borax!
Your homework this week is simple:
1) Put on your big girl panties… (Hopefully they’re clean!)
2) Put a lot of thought into situations that trigger you to feel anxious, overwhelmed, etc..& jot them down.
3) Stay tuned….In upcoming posts, we will explore how to label these thoughts and (if they are irrational), change them.
Happy Mommin’ –
My mind feels quieter lately, less disturbed, and much more calm these past couple of weeks. I have gone through a lot of ups and downs this pregnancy and I feel that I’m finally coming to a place of peace, which is somewhat ironic given that soon I won’t be pregnant at all, but instead will have the change of my new baby to grapple with. At which time I’m sure I’ll have a lot of newness to contend with, but for now, I feel calm, quiet, serene even as I enjoy these last few weeks of holding my baby inside.
I just arrived home a little carsick & A LOT heart sick. Watching the Frio River disappear from view is undoubtedly my least favorite part of the summer.
My favorite part? Everything else.
My intention was to share my favorite memories with words but last night, while gazing up at 1,000 Texas stars, I drank in all of my favorite songs, and changed my mind.
(It is a girl’s prerogative after all & this Texas Girl is no exception!)
So hear you go folks….this pretty much says it all.
Click below so I can tell you about my trip. 🙂
Those of you who are as old as I am probably played the game Mother May I at least once in your life. The basic gist of the game (for you hot young mamas) is that two teams stand in separate lines and ask for permission to do a certain action…i.e. Mother may I take 4 steps forward?
The “mother ” on the opposing team can grant or deny this request and/or add a modification to the request to suite her liking. Any player who forgets to ask for “Mother’s permission” before taking action has to go back to the starting line.
The irony of this post is that it is officially May (ugh) and as a mother I really want to ask for permission to take 10 steps back, fall into bed,pull the covers over my head and wake up on July 1st!
If you are a mom-you know MAY!! It is that short month squashed between April and June that is chocked full of field trips, award ceremonies, bug spray, field days, and mom “daze.”
May is the reason they invented blood pressure medicine, Xanax and booze.
So breathe, notice, study their faces and sweet little (or big) feet.
Pay attention to their details.
Relish the charms of the present.
I had planned a great big loooooong amazing mom post for Mother’s Day (no pressure)…and then my life happened. There were legos to build, juice boxes to buy, smooches to give and movies to see.
Fellow mom, Happy Day! You are loved.
Thank you Mom & Mom Glancy for being the best role models a girl could ask for! Love you both.
Happy Mother’s Day 2017! Angie
Change. It is a’comin. We are nearing the end of a school year and for most that means saying goodbye to familiar faces (young and old), comfortable places (known for one year or many), multiple school assignments, drawings, paintings, and projects that were once the subject of much debate, success, or demise. And from here, we look onward to a new school year. Change, it is a’comin.
At least we still have summer…